Our relationship with God is not a spectator sport. We’re not to pray to a distant God in hopes that in His gracious benevolence He will answer, someday. Salvation is supposed to bring you into the relationship with Him that we were born for.
Emmanuel, God With Us, means exactly that. God comes to live in our hearts. And with His presence comes a unique development—we become transformed to look like Him. And we all, who with unveiled faces contemplate the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into His image with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit. (2Cor 3:18)
We’re changed not on the outside, but on the inside. All the bad stuff that we had in us goes away as we allow God to convict our hearts. It is replaced by the good things of God. Little by little, with ever increasing glory, we begin to reflect our Father from the inside.
If you are not being transformed in your heart, then take a look at your relationship with God. Do you have one? Or is yours a long distance relationship? Turn to Him now, ask Him to be with you, and start the transformation.