For some reason, I was always a little confused by the fruits of the Spirit: But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. (Gal 5:22-23) I’m not sure why, but I always assumed that there was one “fruit” that was mine, that I was defined by. I was supposed to know which one it was and live up to it. Or I had to pick one that I wanted in my life.
Nothing could be further from the truth. The fruits of the Spirit are all aspects of God. And when we have the Holy Spirit in our lives, we have all of Him. All those fruits are in us. But they are probably not all active, so to speak.
Each one of those fruits is yours for the asking, but it’s not as simple as it sounds. Like all things in the kingdom, we have to “earnestly desire” the things we ask from God. It can’t be casual. I learned this from personal experience.
I asked God over and over for one aspect of Himself. I thought I would feel a download from heaven and be changed when I asked, but it didn’t happen like that. It came over time. As I continued to ask, He continued to change. I can see now how gradual it was.
Press into those aspects of His Spirit that you need. Keep at it, and you over time, you will see a difference.