We are each responsible to work out our own salvation. (Phil 2:12) That means that it’s our decision to receive salvation through Christ. We can’t rely on our spouse or parents, or even our church. No wonder the Lord often called us sheep, because we are so ready to follow anyone with a loud enough voice and let other people tell us what is right and wrong.
Pay attention to who you listen to. Is the message Biblical? Or is it Biblical to a point? Is it a message that includes part of the Bible, but not all of it? The Word is very clear: All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness. (2Tim 3:16)
Don’t be a hearer and not a doer. (Jam 1:22) You are responsible for knowing the truth and acting on it. God will send you the help that you need, if you are willing to find it. Blessed are those who are hungry and thirsty for righteousness, for they shall be filled. (Mat 5:6)
If you sit back like a baby bird and wait for other people to feed you, you are in danger of being fed unhealthy food. Ask God to show you truth. Be hungry for it. Rise up and take hold of your place in the kingdom with both hands, and I promise you, God will meet you there.