Love is the essential heart attitude of the kingdom, and you can’t love without humility. Love is not puffed up, does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil, does not rejoice in iniquity. (1Cor 13:4) Love makes you take a backseat to the needs and feelings of others.
Humility guards your heart. It keeps arrogance out and makes you gentle. Good deeds done without humility become bragging grounds. We feel justified in telling people how we prayed for someone or helped them. Humility allows us to do good in secret. When we feel free to talk about our good works, our focus is no longer in love for others, but making us feel better about ourselves.
In a society where we are judged by our cars, our houses, our income, humility is a hard lesson. We are so concerned about what other people will think. The fear of man becomes stronger than the love of God. There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love. (I John 4:18)
I have to believe that most of the church has not been made perfect in love just based on the number of failed marriages, church splits, and issues that Christians carry that are just like those who do not claim to know God at all.
We are not called to live like other people. We are called to live like Jesus. Our heart must beat with His. Yes, He will bless us with the desires of our heart, but only after we align our hearts with His. Humility will keep us in right attitudes. It comes straight from God Himself, and since He puts His Spirit in us when we come to know Him, we have everything we need to live like Jesus. But we have to want to be transformed. We have to want to be like Him and asked to be changed. We have to see our need and our selfish ways so He can change us. If the world sees humility as weakness, so be it. It is powerful in the kingdom.